Today’s mantra: Don’t let your spending prevent you from doing what you want with your life. Rather, let frugality sculpt the life you crave.
Today’s action: Make a list of all the things you could do if you were financially independent.
I love to dream and plan, so I was excited about today’s homework. As I talked about yesterday, my shared goal with my husband is a slower paced life, at home together. But I don’t just want to have a slower-paced life at home, twiddling my thumbs and watching movies. I have things I want to learn, skills I want to develop and things I want to accomplish!
I have an innate desire to do everything from scratch. I don’t know where this comes from because I’m also a huge tech nerd. But inside me, lives a homesteading country girl. A girl who wants a big garden where she grows her own food. A girl who can easily whip up yummy, healthy meals from the food she’s grown. A girl who can sew anything her heart desires without much frustrated muttering and seam-ripping. A girl who knows her way around power tools, who can DIY her home projects and repairs. That’s not too much to ask, is it?
I like to dream big and have my fingers in too many pies. Which is what makes working full-time so hard for me. There are so many things I want to be learning and doing, and work just gets in the way of that. Luckily for me, these hobbies are mostly frugal and will save me money in the long-run, so they’re fun and will help with my goal of financial independence.
I’ve gotten restless at work off and on, but it’s just gotten worse since getting married. I resent the fact that I spend 40 hours a week away from the man I married- the man that I kind of like spending time with. I’m pretty sure that if I’m already having a hard time being away from home with just my husband there, it’s only going to be worse once we start a family.
I always took for granted that I would be the one home to raise my kids. I didn’t realize how big of a desire that was until I got married and became the primary breadwinner. Now, I have no problem being the breadwinner, but I see no reason why I can’t do both- provide for my family and be home to raise my kids. Unfortunately, the nature of the work I do, it’s not possible to do remotely. You kind of need to be in a laboratory to do lab work.
If I was passionate about my job this wouldn’t be a problem, but so far I haven’t found a career that really excites me. But I digress, we’re daydreaming about life post-work right now. The idea of having time to pursue whatever new skill I want to learn and develop is what excites me. I want to learn and exercise creativity! Freedom, that’s what I truly desire out of life, the freedom to create the life I want.
Have you taken time to daydream about financial independence? What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about providing income? The whole world is at your fingertips- what would you choose to do?